More people believe in ghosts than in the existence of Canadian girlfriends. Sian Jameson, a 26-year-old writer from Shropshire (UK) claims to have had sex with a specter! She moved from London into a rented property in Aberystwyth, Wales as she wanted a new start that didn't remind her of her ex. The cottage in Wales - built in the 16th century and fully furnished - was perfect. There, Sian noticed a handsome portrait from 1820 hanging above the mantelpiece.
Then she started having sexy dreams. “I’d wake up thinking I was still in a relationship and was quite relieved to find myself alone!,” Sian told the press. But this moved on to something different soon enough. “A few months after I’d moved in, I woke early one morning to find a dark-haired, very good-looking young man lying next to me,” she said.
“He was fully clothed – in a loose white shirt, a neck scarf and old-fashioned breeches. He had a kind of shimmer to him as if he was behind a fluttering voile curtain. I told myself I was dreaming and rolled away from him. As I faced the wall, I slowly realised I wasn’t asleep and, suddenly I was frozen with fear. I felt a hand on my waist but the touch was strange – light and cool.” She then realized that it was the ghost of the man from the painting!
Things progressed un-naturally enough and they started having sex. “He was very gentle and stroked my body tenderly,” Sian explained. “During the lovemaking, I sensed all kinds of things about him – his name was Robert and he lived over 100 years ago. We didn’t speak – it was as if he was communicating with me telepathically. His body was soft and light. Even when he moved on top of me, pressing down, he felt almost weightless. It was very strange, but the sex was amazing!” The sex lasted for about an hour and Sian reports having fallen asleep in the ghosts arms. However, he was gone in the morning. “I was totally perplexed about what had happened. In fact, I started to wonder whether it had happened at all," Sian said. “In the end, I told myself it was just a very vivid dream and put it to the back of my mind.”
But the ghost returned in a few days. “Again, he appeared in the morning, we made love again but this time, afterwards, I watched him get up, get dressed and leave the room,” Sian said. “I was expecting to hear his footsteps on the wooden stairs, but there was no sound. I watched him through the open bedroom door and saw him kind of fade as he approached the top of the stairs.”
“He appeared one more time after that,” Sian said. “It was night time and I was just drifting off to sleep. All of a sudden, the duvet slid off me and I could feel a cool hand running up my thigh, under my night-shirt. I sobbed after he’d left that night. I guess I had fallen in love.” Unwilling to let go of that ghost, Sian took to the Internet to do some research. She found a 19th-century portrait by a French artist, but the trail went cold in a non-sexy way after that.
Sian told her friends about her experience - which was a mistake. “They looked at me as if I was mad,” Sian said, horrified at her friends' intolerance for her spookyamorous tryst. “So I just laughed it off, said something about eating too much cheese before bed, then kept quiet after that.” Eventually, Sian found love with an alive man.
“Although the experience of making love with a ghost felt very real to Sian, the ‘specter sex’ always happened either early in the morning or late at night, while she was just waking up or just nodding off. It’s well known that particular types of hallucination occur during the transition from wakefulness to sleep (hypnagogic hallucinations) or from sleep to wakefulness (hypnopompic ones)," psychotherapist Tina Radziszewicz told the press. “Such hallucinations can be extremely vivid and bizarre, and can include tactile, visual and auditory."
"These hallucinations are more common in young adults and women, and certain other drugs (prescribed or illegal) make them more likely. The subject of a hypnagogic or hypnopompic hallucination can often be of something that’s been on your mind,“ said Tina. "Stress, anxiety, depression and trauma can make people more prone to this form of hallucination.“Given that Sian’s feelings after breaking up with her boyfriend were so strong that she felt the need to leave London and isolate herself in the country, that suggests she was struggling with a lot of difficult emotions.
Finally, Sian says ghostly ‘Robert’ was a gentle, tender lover. After a bad breakup, who doesn’t feel a strong need to be soothed and cared for? I believe her dream lover represented the fulfillment of that wish.